Know your worth!
No one should put up with shit that makes them uncomfortable or upset.
No one. No woman, man, teenager, child just no one.
So why is that so many young women are allowing themselves to be treated less than they are worth? Why are our young girls putting up with things that don’t feel right or are just plain inappropriate? Harassment and bullying of any kind are not ok, but often young women are allowing things to slide in either fear or just because they are not educated and aware of what is considered wrong.
Over the past few weeks, I have spoken with many women who have told me their personal accounts of being harassed in and out of the workplace.
One friend had a male Instagram follower continually message her explicit things and comment inappropriate things on her photos, even when she blocked him he made a second account!!
A friend who is a nurse who was sexually harassed by a male patient, who indecently exposed himself to her. Instead of helping her, her colleagues and manager assumed she was in a sexual relationship with him and joked about it.
Another young woman told me she was asked to wear a bikini while she was cleaning so she could get paid a bonus.
Another friend complained to her boss about how rude a customer was and was told in no uncertain terms to put up with it even the vulgar language. The list goes on.
My first full time job was at a pharmacy and I was so excited!! I was also doing a traineeship. Little did I know at the time that the business itself got a lump sum payment for each trainee, or that the staff turnover was ridiculously high. I found out quickly. The owner of this business had no manners for a start, he was also very manipulative and had this talent for making you always feel like a failure. TO make it worse the manager would use scare tactics and bullying to keep staff working. It wasn’t until I had to get my wisdom teeth taken out and was expected at work the next day my mother had to put her foot down and step in for me.
Please tell me how is this nurturing young women?
On the other side I worked in a mechanic workshop servicing cars (yes I’ve tried it all) and had the most supportive male boss and co-worker they were absolute gentlemen and to this day I will always think of them in a positive light.
It is critical that we continue to shine a light on these issues. Everyone has the right to be free from any harassment and the fear of sexual violence.
Ladies know your worth. I cannot emphasise enough how important it is to value yourself. It will foster the relationships you create and the people you bring into your life.
When you value yourself, you know how to say no to things that are not good for you. It will boost your confidence and confident people are not to be messed with. You are worth more than any opinion or job where you are made to feel uncomfortable or plain abused.
The Australian Human Rights Commission has reported that 1 in 5 women have experienced sexual harassment in the workplace, and 1 in 10 people have witnessed it. Nearly half of those who have been sexually harassed report that it has also happened to someone else in the same workplace. Almost one in five complaints received by the Australian Human Rights Commission relate to sexual harassment and are subsequently dealt with under the Sex Discrimination Act 1984 (Cth).
If you have made a complaint to your manager or others in your workplace and there have not been adequate steps taken to stop the bullying there are a number of options that you can take to get help.
When to contact the police
If bullying is violent or threatening it may be a criminal offense and you should contact the police immediately call 000
If the situation in not urgent you can call 131 444 for all states and territories except for Victoria where you will need to visit your local police station.
Making a complaint about workplace bullying to the Australian Human Rights Commission
If you are been bullied, harassed or discriminated against because of your race, sex, age, sexual orientation, religion or because you have a disability or are pregnant you can contact the Australian Human Rights Commission. Call 1300 656 419
Stand up for yourselves and your values, and look out for those who reach out for help!!